A woman faces criticism from her family after planning a party to coincide with another family member’s event.
She posted the debacle on the ‘AITA’ (Am I The A-hole) subreddit, a forum where users try to figure out if they were wrong in an altercation that was bothering them.
In her Reddit post, the woman explained that she and her stepsister never really got along.
She decided to plan her daughter’s birthday on the same day as her stepsister’s wedding.
The relationship between the woman and her stepsister has always been bad since her mother remarried and her new husband “brought” his daughter.
“I mostly lived with my dad because I didn’t want anything to do with a new sibling and had virtually no relationship with her and I hated my mom treating her like a daughter,” she wrote.
While she admitted she wasn’t always the “nicest” to her stepsister, she still felt like her stepsister “took my place.”
Now her stepsister is getting married, but she is not invited.
Despite the lack of an invitation, the woman claimed not to mind because she hadn’t invited her stepsister to her own wedding.
However, she had planned for her daughter’s first birthday to be on the same day and when she told her mother about the party, her mother told her to turn it into a weekend when everyone in their family was available.
Her mother insisted it would be unfair to let people choose, but she was adamant about keeping the date.
She explained that her daughter’s party was at 1:00 PM while the wedding was supposed to start at 8:00 PM, but most of her family on mother’s side told her they wouldn’t be able to go to her daughter’s party.
“Even my own mother said she can’t make it because she’s at… [my] stepsister wedding and getting ready all day.”
The woman is upset that people are choosing to go to her stepsister’s wedding instead of her daughter’s party.
“Everyone prefers this girl who isn’t even really related to my daughter,” the woman argued.
“My mom says I should just change the party, but I think it’s ridiculous that they can’t do both and not change my schedule for my stepsister.”
Most people who commented on the woman’s Reddit post agreed that she was wrong.
“Your daughter won’t suffer because her family isn’t there – your daughter will have no idea what’s going on and no memory of her 1st birthday party,” one user wrote.
“She has no idea of time, so move it to another day, as requested, if it’s so important for your family to attend.”
Another user wrote: “You know, we know, everyone knows. People aren’t just going to do both events. Few people want to come to a 1 year old’s birthday party and then go to an adult wedding. “
“You knew about the conflict and went ahead with it, despite the fact that moving it wouldn’t affect your child in any way.”
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