A parent has been supported online for continuing to allow their son to wear blue, a color their autistic daughter hates.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITEA**hole forum, a parent under the anonymous username u/BlueBlueBlueBloo shared their story hoping to get the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has more than 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began their story by describing their son’s love for the color blue. The things he is passionate about are all associated with blue. His favorite superhero wears blue, his favorite TV show has a lot of blue, his room is painted blue, and he often wears blue.
However, their 13-year-old daughter with autism hates the color.
“She finds the color blue incredibly shocking because it is associated with a hate organization that advocates harming autistic people. Seeing the color is painful for her. My son’s room is painted blue and many of his outfits are blue. My daughter wants him not to wear blue clothes where she can see. He refuses,” wrote u/BlueBlueBlueBloo.
“I spoke to my son and he said he thinks he should wear his favorite T-shirt in his own house. I think he is right, although it hurts me to see my daughter upset. I think that Talking to her therapist about her aversion will help her more than forbidding the color, which she will realistically see in many contexts,” they conclude.
News week contacted you/BlueBlueBlueBloo for comment.
Defining autism and forming a strong bond with your sibling with a disability
As defined by the CDC, autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental disorder caused by differences in the brain. ASD is also more than four times more common in boys than girls.
Do you have a sibling with autism and want to spend more time with them? According to elemy.com, try to learn as much as you can about the disability. Therapy can also be a good tool as it can help you learn different communication styles, how to participate in activities, and how to understand each other.
If you need help, make sure you have a support network, including your parents, a counselor, or your peers. Find many ways to strengthen your relationship with your sibling by spending time together and finding activities that you both enjoy.
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Comments from Redditors
“[Not the a**hole] She will have to deal with things that she does not always like in life. She can’t demand that everything goes her way,” wrote u/Orangesunset98, which received the most response from more than 12,000 votes.
U/Wazlad said: “[Not the a**hole] daughter may hate it, but has no control over what others wear… The color blue is literally everywhere, she has to work this out in therapy.”
“[Not the a**hole], accommodations should be reasonable. If she hates blue, it’s only fair for her room to be painted a different color and forbid it from her wardrobe. She has no right to make demands on other people’s bodies,” u/Odd_Trifle_2604.
“[Not the a**hole]. You should not limit what your son wears because your daughter has obsessive thoughts about the color blue associated with an organization. She needs help to understand that just because an organization uses the color does not mean that all use of the color is related to the organization. Meanwhile, she needs help to deal with her feelings about the color appropriately, without making demands on other people,” explains u/Scrabblement.