The internet has scolded a man for snapping at his pregnant wife for complaining about her chronic pain.
In a viral post published on Reddit’s infamous r/AmITeA**hole forum, a woman under the username u/LillianGordon335 posed the question, “AITA for telling my husband he’s having it easy?” to let the community decide if it is wrong. The popular entry has more than 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The Redditor begins her post by saying she is seven months pregnant and dealing with “medical matters and chronic pain.” She explained that her husband doesn’t like it when she complains about what’s bothering her.
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“It’s not like I’m constantly complaining, but it slowed me down and made my husband think I was looking for excuses not to get anything done,” she wrote.
She recently woke up with extreme back pain and complained to her husband about what was bothering her.
She said: “He ‘snatched’ me and told me I was acting like a spoiled princess and that I’m a mother, I should start behaving like that. I snapped back and told him not to dictate how I should feel and deal with what I’m dealing with because he has no idea what it’s like. He was like, ‘Yeah, but we’re in this together, I put the baby in there, remember?'”
“I told him yes, but he’s not the one doing the job so he has it easy. He looked at me in shock and fell silent for a minute. mama’ card to me already?, how much ‘leverage’ are you from plan to get that,'” she continued.
His words upset her. They kept arguing until he left. All day long he refused to answer when she called him. When he returned home he was very distant with her and when he spoke he said that saying he has it easy was “out of line”. He felt she “discredited his efforts and sacrifices” and all he does is “give”.
The “AITA” community was quick to comment in defense of the woman.
“Buddy had an orgasm and thinks this is the equivalent of growing a tiny human being. This is not how supportive partners behave towards their pregnant wife. 100% [Not the A**hole],” u/xxfallenangelxrd received the best response with over 17,000 votes.
U/unjessicabil_evable cringed, “Or not the man you want to raise a child with. [Not the A**hole]† He is a giant [a**hole]†
“Honey. Throw the whole guy out. As no joke, he tries to convince you that you shouldn’t feel worthless during pregnancy???? and then gets defensive and claims you are somehow burdening him with your complaints He should rub your feet, give you tea and give you a warm bath. [Not the A**hole] in every way,” exclaimed u/g3nab33.
“But compared to you, he DOES have it EASY. I mean the swelling, the nausea, the pain, the urination, the fatigue, the cravings, the bad sleep, the blood tests, the diet change, the clothes not fitting, the doctor’s appointments, the list goes on. He really can’t compare ejaculation to pregnancy. [Not the A**hole]’ said you/Heraonolympia123.
You/suualleker added, “[Not the A**hole]† And after you have the baby, he will no doubt tell you how easy it is to be home all day.”
news week contacted u/LillianGordon335 for comment.